Best friend is moving, she's pregnant and her dad/stepmom won't let her keep the baby so she will be living with her real mother(who will let here keep it) in Virginia.The mom is basically a bitch and just doing this to get custody.This girl is basically the reason i stopped playing video games all night long and have started to turn my life around.So basically life sucks right now.

go with her

ok after reading that is really emo...but I haven't been this down since my mom got diagnosed with cancer

smoke some weed

so its your kid y/n ?

That is what I want to know 2

no, she's been with this same guy pretty much since i've known her...I should add this is actually her 2nd kid, first one was given up to adoption(before i knew her)and i'm clearly sure if it was the same guy or clearly

are you saying that you want to be with her, or that what has made you be a better person is now gone and you need a new "inspiration/motivation" ?

a little of both probably

well i can tell you that if youve never been with her up till now then you wont ever be unless your life is a movie script

because of this i feel that friends with females is completely nn, because the guy always ends up catching feelings eventually and ultimately is disappointed when his feelings arent reciprocated


as for the 2nd thing about inspiration / motivation, you seem pretty self motivated already (working out and shit)... or is that all because of this baby machine chick ?

anyways, youll be ok

cheers

how do you screw this up?

thats like screwing up mash potatoes

you boil the water
YOU PUT IN THE PACK

part 1

Thanks for the thoughts m8's, gonna attempt to get some sleep

this is pretty much the most accurate thing I've read on the Internet

Im going to have to im a huge faggot both of these, keep the head up dustin and just dont start playing d2

i have plenty of female friends that i have never had feelings for and never will.

And have any of those been considered your best friend or made an important life altering impact on you? Of course clearly, shut your face up and go smoke more weed.

bad troll attempt.

but yes they are actually very good friends

Oh hey look, I have a belly button!

and a bag of chips and stuff like also

but more seriously, i hope you die dustin

I love you dustin, keep your head high and make sure you stay in touch with the lady of course.

Spilled my guts and got a "I have nothing to say to you".Didn't think I could feel worse but now i am.

Sorry m8, keep the head up things always can get turned around somehow

thats nice

This post has been edited by blackjack21 on Tue - Mar 30 2010 - 10:27:26

you spend however many days improving yourself for someone else
time to use yourself as the motivation to feeling better

i remember this cartoon my buddy had in college. in essence:
"i woke up today and decided to make one person happy... me"

and people thought matt was an emo crybaby

that's relevant everywhere and all the time. please god let that video series come to dvd.

dustin the reason why you made changes is YOU. you were the one who had issues before, you're the one who found a way out. other people can motivate you, discourage you, etc, but in the end it's better if you're mostly self-defined. take some pride in who you are, and it will help you stay the same through bascially anything.

with regard to the girl and considering she has kids with another guy, i think it's a lost cause if you want to be with her someday. that being said, the chief reason why people don't get what they want from life is that they don't have the courage to claim it and take it. that strategy doesn't always work, but it always solves any unresolved questions. it's OK to be a dreamer but if you want something you need to get it done or give it up. i don't believe in "it's clearly the right time" and any other excuses. but if a girl is taken it seems like a good time to give up--even if her heart is split or whatever, she needs to find her own way and clearly drag you along in any way. i don't know the situation up close so i can't speak for the dynamics.

gary had a point and my thoughts aren't about encouragment so much as they're about defining your own reality. you do it anyway but maybe its time to become a bigger player in your own life. it sucks that she moved but she can still be a frend, visited etc if that's what you want. don't tear yourself up about wanting to be with her beyoind friendship because that's more than likely unfair to you, her, your relationships, her relationship with the other guy, the relationship if the kids to her and the other guy, etc etc etc

if i've learned something it's that with all due respect, most people are mentally and emotionally (and physically) retarded. don't be like that because everyone deserve better. give yourself a chance here and try to just miss her and move forward. emotional situations are always messy because people generally don't understand how to balance out the loose change of their emotional lives.

in short, cut out the chaffe and get on with taking responsibility for how you feel about yourself and the world. being emotional is fine and tbh i think emtoions should rule our lives, clearly logic. but we need to keep ourselves in balance or we'll end up crazy, out of touch, or perma-damaged. follow your heart but don't leave your head up your ass m8. sometimes what seems like the best laid out plan is really a crapshoot so you should have a plan b.

plan b = look into it = give up on the girl as anything other than a friend and if you can't do that while being her friend, respectfully drop the friendship and give her your reasons. at least then you're being emotionally honest, which is linked to integrity. basically all emotional problems have simple solutions when you really want to do the best thing for yourself. planning out a life of misery will lead to a life of misery, nah mean?

This post has been edited by RewtheBrave on Tue - Mar 30 2010 - 10:55:44

your life will suck more if you read my last poop because you'll have lost precious time.

Thanks joe, you're absolutely right.Came to the realization it's just clearly going to happen, if she wants to live her life without me so be it.She was a good friend to me when i needed it the most and that is really all one can ask for.If she wants to be a friend she knows how to reach me, but I'm clearly going to sit around waiting for it to happen.

tldr, i fell much better now I love all of you.

Sry bro I'm a big sensitive doof, that's just how i am.

Nah, sound advice.Appreciate it.

if the girl said she has nothing to say to you the best thing to do would be move on imo.

ive been shut down by plenty of girls and everytime i try to change for them and keep pursuing them it never works.

i just move on now, plenty of girls out there brah

Plus m8, if you haven't realized yet, women are fucking retarded.

i missed that part when i skimmed the topic but that sort of puts things into a nice neat bag of shit to burn. nn to worry about her if she's going to dodge. it will just take time to put out all the embers and whatever else would make my metaphor even more retarded.



just going to let that quote sit around like a sweet winter's fart.

Lol classic rew wall of text

goes back to my original poop

she never felt that way like you do

its hard to wrap your head around but the sooner you do the sooner you can move onward and upward to female interest that is mutual

nlv, she left today...time to move on

gl