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#450837 | Thu - Feb 5 2009 - 12:12:04
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ok, my friend FINALLY broke up with his girlfriend who none of us liked. she cheated on him a few times with a few different people, and he put up with it. i don't really know why they broke up yesterday but i'm trying to help him out.

my friends have a past history of breaking up with girls they know are bad for them, but end up getting back together a week or so later when tempted with sex (aka girls trying to pull some she-devil shit to trick them into getting back with them)

so im trying to convince him to NOT have sex with her under any circumstances, and to just not respond to text messages or whatever at all. we're going to a concert tomorrow night so hopefully it'll be a chance to get hammered and have him take his mind off of it

what else can i do to help him stay away from this girl
 
#450856 | Thu - Feb 5 2009 - 12:34:46
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#450867 | Thu - Feb 5 2009 - 12:45:42
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those are tough things to walk away from, especially for someone who accepted it once (which makes acceptance all the more likely).
in the end its really gonna come down to his resolve, so it may be necessary to remind him of all the shitty things she did, but only when she is brought up and he seems reminiscent or like he actually misses her. then again there may be nothing you as friends can do as it has to be his decision.

my hs/college gf and i were together for 6 years, with many break ups and we each cheated on each other. and all i can really say is it took 6 years for either of us to realize that we were never going to get over the things we had done to each other. in hindsight should have broke it off 5 years earlier, though i dont regret my time with her if that makes any sense. my friends thought i was crazy, her friends thought she was crazy for sticking it out for so long though.
 
#450868 | Thu - Feb 5 2009 - 12:46:21
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i dont know why people even bother staying with people after they cheat. id be out after the first time and never look back. since hes a guy, he can handle rough dialogue. everytime he wants to talk about how much he misses her just start spouting everything off thats bad about her: "1. whore, she cheated on you 3+ times with 3+ other people, THAT WE KNOW ABOUT 2. none of us like her, shes a total bitch, she treats you like shit. 3....."
 
#450874 | Thu - Feb 5 2009 - 12:49:59
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the friends card does not work spencer. anyone who has accepted a single cheating does not but much stock in "my friends dont like you"
but yes, reminding him of how shitty it was is probably the only way, but nn being too psychological with him as it may have the adverse effect.
 
#450878 | Thu - Feb 5 2009 - 12:55:30
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Quote (Sgull @ Feb 5 2009 - 13:46:21)
i dont know why people even bother staying with people after they cheat.  id be out after the first time and never look back.  since hes a guy, he can handle rough dialogue.  everytime he wants to talk about how much he misses her just start spouting everything off thats bad about her: "1. whore, she cheated on you 3+ times with 3+ other people, THAT WE KNOW ABOUT 2. none of us like her, shes a total bitch, she treats you like shit. 3....."


ya thats what we all said. he took her back tons of times, but if it was me i would have just dumped her

hes not acting like he misses her or w/e yet but apparently she is all over his nuts trying to tempt him to go back

they used to hang out together 24/7 so im assuming its going to be a rough transition for him, which worries me that he might fall for her shit and fuck her, and end up getting back together (where he will go through the same things over again)
 
#450882 | Thu - Feb 5 2009 - 12:57:39
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Quote (hedonism @ Feb 5 2009 - 11:55:30)
Quote (Sgull @ Feb 5 2009 - 13:46:21)
i dont know why people even bother staying with people after they cheat.  id be out after the first time and never look back.  since hes a guy, he can handle rough dialogue.  everytime he wants to talk about how much he misses her just start spouting everything off thats bad about her: "1. whore, she cheated on you 3+ times with 3+ other people, THAT WE KNOW ABOUT 2. none of us like her, shes a total bitch, she treats you like shit. 3....."


ya thats what we all said. he took her back tons of times, but if it was me i would have just dumped her

hes not acting like he misses her or w/e yet but apparently she is all over his nuts trying to tempt him to go back

they used to hang out together 24/7 so im assuming its going to be a rough transition for him, which worries me that he might fall for her shit and fuck her, and end up getting back together (where he will go through the same things over again)


when he gets over her and if shes still hounding him he should totally fuck her and ignore her until she goes away though
 
#450969 | Thu - Feb 5 2009 - 14:26:09
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get him drunk/high and just tell him to think about the good times and tell him to move on.

nothing more you can really do imo. he is going to have to battle the demons himself


just make sure he knows u are there to talk anytime, then call no homo
 
#451028 | Thu - Feb 5 2009 - 16:58:24
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take him to a strip club lol.
 
#451105 | Thu - Feb 5 2009 - 19:49:21
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Quote (Bgull @ Feb 5 2009 - 16:58:24)
take him to a strip club lol.


This kid is such a fucking idiot, anyone else agree?
 
#451106 | Thu - Feb 5 2009 - 19:50:13
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The advice already posted is about as good as anything I can come up with. Your friend is a pussy for taking her back after the first time she was untrustworthy.
 
#452506 | Mon - Feb 9 2009 - 14:39:00
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what you SHOULD do is fuck her, tell your friend, and then tell ur friend btw i have aids

that should do it
 
#452515 | Mon - Feb 9 2009 - 14:58:25
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Quote (blackjack21 @ Feb 9 2009 - 13:39:00)
what you SHOULD do is fuck her, tell your friend, and then tell ur friend btw i have aids

that should do it

haha that would definitely work
 
#452526 | Mon - Feb 9 2009 - 15:20:45
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Quote (Sgull @ Feb 9 2009 - 14:58:25)
Quote (blackjack21 @ Feb 9 2009 - 13:39:00)
what you SHOULD do is fuck her, tell your friend, and then tell ur friend btw i have aids

that should do it

haha that would definitely work


prolly would work even if he didnt believe the aids part
 
#452781 | Mon - Feb 9 2009 - 21:15:27
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Quote (blackjack21 @ Feb 9 2009 - 15:20:45)
Quote (Sgull @ Feb 9 2009 - 14:58:25)
Quote (blackjack21 @ Feb 9 2009 - 13:39:00)
what you SHOULD do is fuck her, tell your friend, and then tell ur friend btw i have aids

that should do it

haha that would definitely work


prolly would work even if he didnt believe the aids part


and im sure he would hate you for doing this.
 
#452782 | Mon - Feb 9 2009 - 21:17:30
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Quote (BBQ @ Feb 9 2009 - 21:15:27)
Quote (blackjack21 @ Feb 9 2009 - 15:20:45)
Quote (Sgull @ Feb 9 2009 - 14:58:25)
Quote (blackjack21 @ Feb 9 2009 - 13:39:00)
what you SHOULD do is fuck her, tell your friend, and then tell ur friend btw i have aids

that should do it

haha that would definitely work


prolly would work even if he didnt believe the aids part


and im sure he would hate you for doing this.
maybe at first, but he will come around. after all, you are doing it for his own good
 
#452783 | Mon - Feb 9 2009 - 21:17:33
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apparently they fucked and he still doesnt want to get back together

she was waiting for him out of work when we were leaving this weekend and he just took off

good for him imo
 
#452784 | Mon - Feb 9 2009 - 21:17:54
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Quote (MoS. @ Feb 5 2009 - 19:49:21)
Quote (Bgull @ Feb 5 2009 - 16:58:24)
take him to a strip club lol.


This kid is such a fucking idiot, anyone else agree?

i love bruce stfu
 
#452845 | Mon - Feb 9 2009 - 23:25:39
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my friend dated a girl that none of us liked, I didn't hang out with him for months when they were together, once they broke up me and other friends scheduled lots of shit with him and kept him busy and away from her when she tried to hang out with him. Keep him busy so he doesn't have time for her and take him places where he can meet new girls so he knows he doesn't have to be chained down to her.
 
#452848 | Mon - Feb 9 2009 - 23:31:05
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oic
 
#604864 | Mon - Sep 7 2009 - 13:20:45
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bring a new bitch around ofc.
 
#629610 | Thu - Nov 5 2009 - 08:58:55
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keep him busy at all times - he should forget her quickly enough if she was no good for him.

so make sure his schedule is busy at all times until he does.
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